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My Marriage Ideal (Yes, I Have One)

My Marriage Ideal (Yes, I Have One)

On bingeing Canadian detective shows + finding the perfect marriage in fiction

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Tressie McMillan Cottom
Jul 11, 2021
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Where did you get your cultural scripts about marriage? How did race and gender and class shape those messages for you?

I’m still not sold on the whole enterprise. I did it once after being asked a few times because it seemed like the path of least resistance. And I have manners. When someone asks you to marry them, it is impolite to say no. 

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